Onelifetime
OneIifetime is an online Relationship Coaching service for individuals and couples which provides a blended therapeutic approach that incorporates the principles of CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) together with using the coaching method as the vehicle to help my clients work through issues that are affecting their relationship.  

I specialise in providing single-focused coaching sessions which means that each  session is designed to address a specific subject or issue which may be the cause of the dynamics in the relationship to have change.  

This type of coaching enables you to address a specific issue and facilitate changes where necessary in a managed and focused way by providing support and helping you to reflect on the presenting issues to find a solution.
 
This is achieved through a stepped coaching approach which is to Identify, Clarify, Visualise, Plan and Achieve.

Identify:- Looking at the presenting issue and what the ideal situation / resolution would be. 

Clarify:- Unpicking  and understanding what the presenting issue and why its important to you to be resolve. your goal/target is and what this would mean to you life.

Visualise:- What does the presented issue resolved look like ad how does this look like in your life and how it would change it. 

Plan:- Breaking down the issue into its core. Managing your approach and expectations  to resolve the issue. 

Achieve:- Finding the resolution to the issue but also learning how to managing and resolve issues for the future.


What is a relationship

There are different forms of relationships which people can identify as their relationship status. These relationships vary greatly in terms of closeness and can typically be classed into one of the categories below:
 
  • Monogamous relationships
  • Casual relationships
  • Situational relationships (sometimes called ‘Situationships’)
  • Open relationship
I typically work with clients who are in or looking for a monogamous relationship with the general consensus being that a monogamous relationship is one between two individuals that have formed a loving bond and commitment to one another. 




However sometimes additional issues can occur within their relationship which can be difficult to resolve and needs help to do this.

Client Feedback
Michael has opened my eyes! I cannot thank him enough for what he has done. In the short time we were talking he has made me realise to take a step back and get a perspective from my partners point of view. Probably the main thing is to Listen twice before speaking!

I can highly recommend Michael and he's number is securely locked in my phone. I cannot thank him enough. 

Neil 
So what can cause issues in a relationship

There are many factors that contribute to the development and maintenance of healthy relationships from self esteem & identity together with issues of commitment, trust, respect and love. 

As such the lack of these can lead to unhealthy relationships where the issues are not being resolved and can over time becomes the core of relationship. 

Typical issues which affect a healthy relationship can be put into the categories of:- 

  • Relationship with Self (Self Esteem & Identity)
  • Communication & Understanding
  • Intimacy & Passion
  • Trust & Love
  • Blended Families (Ex Partners / Children) 
  • Infidelity
When issues occur in the relationship it sometimes can become hard to resolve because the communication has broken down or simply that connection has been overtaken by routine and over time has become less and less. So even though it could be seen from an outside perspective that it's a simple matter to resolve many individuals and couples find it hard to find the mutual ground in which to resolve the presented issue.  

Sometimes it may also be due to the fact that many couples who embark upon the relationship journey don’t really discuss their expectations or what a relationship looks like to them.  We're from different families and a lot of our perspective of what a relationship looks like is from the values we have seen and learnt from when we were children. 


                                                              
How does Relationship Coaching help

As a relationship coach I help my clients look at the presented  issues not just from their perspective but also from their partner's perspective.  This holistic approach enables my clients to foster understanding and look deeper into the possible reasons why these issues are presenting themselves into their
relationship or even the reasons why their relationships seem to break down.
Client Feedback
Michael was very helpful and really got me to think about the issue that I was experiencing. 
It did help me and has enabled me to begin resolving my issues.

Noel